One in five children experience mental health disorders in a given year, yet half of those children do not receive the care they need. Learn how to recognize the signs of a mental health problem and what to do to help your child or teen.
Tips to Boost Your Child’s Mental Wellness
Mental health includes how well a child or teen thinks, copes with feelings and behaves. Learn ways to support your child or teen’s mental wellness. (Spanish (PDF))
Positive Parenting
Find links to information on how to nurture your child's emotional health. Some resources are available in Spanish.
Parenting Tool: Emotion Coaching
Help your child understand their emotions and how to cope with them through emotion coaching. Spanish (PDF)
Parenting Tool: Validation
Validation is a parenting tool that shows your child they are heard and understood. This handout explains how to validate your child’s feelings and behaviors. (Spanish) (PDF)
How to Do “Mental Health Check-Ins” With Your Child
Learn about mental health check-ins and how to do them effectively.
Prevent Suicide: Ask the Question
We can all work together to help prevent suicide. Start by learning to ask the question. Watch the video.
Prevención de suicidio: preguntemos
Todos podemos contribuir a la prevención de suicidio. Empecemos aprendiendo a preguntar: “¿Estás pensando en el suicidio?” Vea el vídeo.
Feeling Blue? What Parents Should Know About Seasonal Sadness in Kids and Teens
Learn about how winter can impact mood, leading to feelings of sadness, irritability and fatigue.
Start by talking with your child’s pediatrician or primary care provider. They can often help determine the most appropriate next step and provide referrals.
What to Watch for and How to Help
Learn ways to support your child or teen’s mental wellness, signs of a mental health problem, warning signs of a potential crisis or suicide, steps you can take and how to get help. (Spanish) (PDF)
Symptom Checker
If you’re exploring conditions related to behaviors your child displays, consider using this symptom checker from Child Mind Institute. (Spanish)
Mental Health Warning Signs (Video :30)
Learn the early warning signs of mental health issues in kids and teens. Know the signs. Act early. (Spanish)
Cutting to Cope: What is Nonsuicidal Self-Injury?
Learn about nonsuicidal self-injury (NSSI), its prevalence among teens and young adults, coping mechanisms, risk factors and the importance of seeking professional help and encouraging positive coping strategies.
Common Mental Health Problems and Resources
Read about common mental health problems in children and teens and find curated resources collected by Seattle Children's providers.
Resources for Care in the Community
Find lists organized by type of therapy to help you get mental health care for your child.
Getting Started Guide for Caregivers
An online guide to help parents and caregivers navigate their role as they support their child or teen with a mental health condition.
Mental health providers have different training and ways of treating children and teens. It is important to find a mental health provider who has received special training and education to treat children and teens, and whose experience and training are a good fit for your child and family.
There are many types of mental health providers for children and families. Each has a specific training and license. Here are the most common ones who treat children and teens with mental health issues:
It is always a good idea to check with your child’s pediatrician for recommendations. Teachers or other parents may also have providers they recommend. We urge you to ask questions and find out more about the type of therapy offered, the training and supervision of the provider you may be working with, costs and estimated duration of treatment. Visit these websites to learn about types of therapy and which have been found to work well in treating mental health conditions in children and teens.
Look for these qualities and experience when looking for a mental health
provider for your child or teen:
A mental health therapist or counselor is an important part of your child or teen’s care team. Call or go to your insurance company website for names of mental health providers on your plan. Finding the right therapist can take a long time. There are many factors to keep in mind, such as:
It can take a lot of phone calls or emails to find the right therapist.
Note: If you leave a voicemail message for a therapist, call again if you have not heard back in 24 hours. Some therapists may be more accessible by email. Often therapists do not have a receptionist. If they do not have any appointments available but offer to put you on a waitlist, take that option while you continue to call others. If you find another therapist, you can always decline the appointment.
Once you find a therapist or counselor, it can take some time to know if they are a good fit for your child or teen. Go to 3 or 4 visits before deciding if this is someone you both feel they can make progress with.
While this process can take some time, it is some of the most important work you can do to support your child or teen.
Download this Q&A as a PDF. (Spanish)
Washington Mental Health Referral Service for Children and Teens
This free service connects families with mental health providers who have openings in their schedule and can meet your child’s needs. (Spanish, Russian, Somali, Vietnamese) (PDF)
Mental health begins at home, and your child will need your help to build mental health resiliency. The resources below can help you set up a home environment that promotes good mental health.
Consistency and a daily routine provide structure to allow your child to thrive as they grow and develop. Small things like following through on what you tell your child and setting and sticking to regular wake up, meal and bedtimes can support them. When your child can count on some stability in their life, it makes it easier for them to learn appropriate behaviors and cope with the unpredictable parts of life.
Children often act out because they are frustrated and have a hard time communicating this to their parents. Parents can use “emotion coaching” to help their child name the feeling. Then they use validation to tell their child that they understand and accept their thoughts or feelings. Validation doesn’t mean you are agreeing with or like their behavior, but that you are listening and trying to understand their point of view.
These resources can help you learn about behavior problems, emotion coaching and validation:
Parenting Tool: Emotion Coaching
Help your child understand their emotions and how to cope with them through emotion coaching. Spanish (PDF)
Parenting Tool: Validation
Learn how to validate your child’s feelings and behaviors. Spanish (PDF)
Parenting Tool: Understanding Behavior Problems
Learn why behavior problems happen and find steps you can take to change a behavior problem. Spanish (PDF)
Hotlines for Youth
Share this list with your child or teen as a quick reference in times of need. Amharic Arabic Russian Simplified Chinese Somali Spanish Ukrainian Vietnamese (PDF)
Behavior Basics Parenting Class
This class offers practical tips you can use at home to help your child with behavior challenges such as not following instructions, arguing, trying to get negative reactions and more.
Parenting Tool: Strategies for Managing Problem Behaviors
Help your child learn better ways to cope with stress and frustration and reduce problem behavior. Spanish (PDF)
Booklist and Resources for Managing Disruptive Behaviors
A list of books, videos and websites. (PDF)
Web Resources for Families of Children and Adolescents With Emotional and Behavioral Needs
This list can help you connect with social services and support. (PDF)
Supporting Youth Experiencing Racism
Provides steps to help you think about your family’s experience with racism so far and gives lots of ideas for helping youth cope with racism and build a healthy connection to their race or ethnicity. Spanish (PDF)
Supporting Youth Who Have Experienced Trauma
Explains trauma, post-traumatic stress, and how to support your child or teen as they recover. Spanish (PDF)
Positive Parenting
Find links to information on how to nurture your child's emotional health. Some resources are available in Spanish.
Treatment Groups
Learn about groups that support parenting skills, early childhood mental wellness and specific mental health conditions. Referrals are required.
The escalation cycle is a tool that explains emotion or behavior during a crisis situation. It has six stages identified by different colors and guides parents through how to help their child in each stage. The use of a “coping card” together with the escalation cycle is an essential element in understanding the emotions that trigger certain behavior in your child.
The Escalation Cycle
Learn about the escalation cycle, see an example and complete a sheet with your child. Spanish, Amharic, Arabic, Chinese Russian, Somali, Ukrainian, Vietnamese (PDF)
How to Use Coping Cards
This tool is best used to support youth with depression, self-harm or suicidal ideation as well as youth with behavioral outbursts. It can help you and your child learn which situations lead you to emotional or behavioral distress and which coping skills can help. Spanish, Amharic, Arabic, Chinese, Russian, Somali, Ukrainian, Vietnamese (PDF)
Coping Cards
This tool is best used to support youth with depression, self-harm or suicidal ideation as well as youth with behavioral outbursts. Print this out and fill it in to make a coping card for your child, and one for you, too. Spanish, Amharic, Arabic, Chinese, Russian, Somali, Ukrainian, Vietnamese (PDF)
Expert-Tested Tools to Manage Your Child’s Mental Health
Learn more about how to use the escalation cycle and coping cards with your child or teen.
Home safety is important for all families. Children and teens with mental health problems are at higher risk for harming themselves. There are things you can do to make your home safer for your child and the rest of your family.
Teens, Depression and Firearms
Learn how teens, depression and firearms are connected and what you can do to keep your family safe. Spanish, Russian, Somali (PDF)
Safe Medicine Storage and Disposal to Prevent Misuse
Get tips for safely storing and disposing of medicines in your home to prevent misuse. Spanish, Russian (PDF)
Safe Medicine Storage and Disposal (Video, :30)
Learn how to help prevent medicine misuse, poisoning and suicide through safe medicine storage and disposal.
Home Safety Strategies
This handout is often given to families as they leave Seattle Children's after a crisis, but is useful for anyone looking to provide a safe home environment. Spanish, Amharic, Arabic, Chinese, Russian, Somali, Ukrainian, Vietnamese (PDF)
Class: Youth Mental Health First Aid
Gain skills on how to help an adolescent in crisis or who is experiencing a mental health challenge.
Prevent Suicide: Ask the Question
Learn the common suicide warning signs and what to do if a child or teen has thought about suicide. (Spanish)
Preventing Youth Suicide (Video, 4:50)
A mother who lost her son to suicide and a Seattle Children’s doctor share tips for recognizing warning signs and preventing suicide in children and teens.
Seattle Children’s Psychiatry and Behavioral Medicine team specializes in certain conditions and services to provide excellent care to every family we serve.
We often have more requests from new patients than we have open appointments. If you are considering choosing us:
If you, your child, family or friend needs help right away, call, chat or text 988. The free and confidential 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in the United States to provide support for people in distress, as well as prevention and crisis resources. The Lifeline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in the United States.
Seattle Children’s Psychiatric Urgent Care offers in-person and video visits for same-day mental health support for children and teens ages 4 through 17 who may not need the services of an emergency department.
Hotlines for Youth (PDF) provides other options for immediate help for children and teens. (Also available in Amharic, Arabic, Russian, Simplified Chinese, Somali, Spanish, Ukrainian and Vietnamese.)
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is the most common mental health problem of childhood. If your child or teen has problems with family, friends or school due to trouble with attention, learning or behavior that lasts longer than six months, they may have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder ADHD or a related disorder such as oppositional defiant disorder (ODD).
Anxiety is a common mental health problem in children. These are fears and worries that are out of scale with the situation and get in the way of normal day-to-day activities. Often a child has considerable distress and negative thinking and tries to avoid what causes their stress. Physical symptoms may include headaches or stomach aches.
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder, which means it is based in the brain. It’s a disorder that unfolds over time. The diagnosis is made by studying a child’s behavior, not through medical tests. The diagnosis is based on impairments in social behavior and restricted activities and interests.
A mood disorder in which a child experiences extreme changes in mood from sadness (or depression) and to feeling high (mania). During both the depression phase and the mania phase a child may have irrational anger. These changes affect sleep, appetite, concentration, behavior and place a child at risk for self-harm. These mood changes may be separated by days or months.
A mood disorder that can cause a child to feel sad, hopeless, cranky or tired. There can be changes in sleep, appetite and weight. It affects how a child feels, thinks and acts. A child may have trouble doing normal activities or feel life isn't worth living.
It is common for children to be defiant toward adults sometimes. For example, they may argue, refuse to do what they are told or talk back. However, if your child has negative, hostile and defiant behavior that lasts more than six months and is worse than behavior normally seen in children of the same age, your child may have oppositional defiant disorder (ODD).
Eating disorders are serious medical and behavioral problems that often start in and around the teen years. Common eating disorders include anorexia and bulimia.
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder. Children and teens have repeated worries called obsessions. Common obsessions are around germs and cleanliness. The worries make kids with OCD repeat the same behaviors over and over (compulsions or rituals).
PTS means distressing reactions to trauma. You can get PTS for traumas that happen to you or someone close to you, or if you see a trauma happen to someone else.
Psychotic disorders can cause people to lose touch with reality and to have delusions (strong beliefs that do not match reality) and hallucinations (seeing, hearing, smelling or feeling something that does not exist).
Mental health problems and substance use can occur together. Sometimes, kids and teens try to self-treat mental health issues by using substances. Sometimes kids and teens who use substances develop mental health issues.